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What is wrong with casual sex?

What do i do whenever my boyfriend demands for sex when am not ready?

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|Questions Young People Ask|

A lot of youths today have a lot of questions on their mind which they are yet to get answers to. Below is a review of some of these anonymous questions...

Question 1: What do i do if i don't meet up to my parents' expectations?

Answer:
Keep trying...there is no crime in trying, a writer once said "Greatness is doing what is to be done when it should be done without minding the difficulties". You need to keep doing your best, if today you help in the kitchen, tomorrow you help them in the garden, and they still don't believe you to be useful in the house...try to put this in mind, "there is light at the end of the tunnel".

Most times, you never can tell, your parents might be doing most of those things in order to get on your nerves, in their bid to try your patience and maturity, they might step on your toes...but...you need to stay strong!

Warning:- Whatever happens, don't leave the house, don't get into the habit of saying "This house is too hot for me". It is a very dangerous speech, only your parents know the right time for you to be set free, don't let the kind of life your peers enjoy blindfold you, God made your parents in order for them to lead and guide you not into destruction but into everlasting glory, your parents will always want you to shine.

Be Wise!!!

Question 2: My friends believe i am stupid because i dont drink, What do u do?

Answer:

Don't Drink!!!...Whatever they do to entice you, whatever they do to lure you, dont drink!

A lot of youth these days are used to the habit of drinking which basically, they inherited from each other. it is just like a circle, since one is addicted, he doesn't want to be alone, he pushes forward to invite others to drink, then others join in, before you know it, a whole community is full of youths that don't do without drinking.

Below is a diagram to show more light.

That is exactly how it works, a circle of infected drunkards. Definitely, in that circle there are innocent people who where not comfortable with the idea, but allowed themselves to be lured in foolishly.

How does it happen?

1. You know they are drinking, you still loiter around with does same set of people

2. They are trying to lure you by saying "Why don't you just take a sip and thats all"...(Well thats all indeed, because once you are into it, it is not that easy to get out).

3. They tell you to come to their house for a very important meeting and when you get there they say they were joking that you should join them in drinking, you say no...but you still hang around them LAUGHING

4. You go to a party, you find out that all the drinks available are alcoholic, still you hang around and you believe that you can avoid drinking, I tell you, the more you hang around, the more closing they get to you.

All these and many more.

How to escape temptations to drink

1. Resist the devil and he will flee from you, just resist them and they will go away from you.

2. Learn to say "NO!" at the right time.

3. The moment you start noticing the present of expensive joke, take your leave

4. Your time is very useful, don't waste it!

5. Avoid late night parties!

6. Avoid loitering around with irresponsible girls

All these and many more...BE wise!!!

Question 3: I am addicted to Night Clubs and girls, What do i do?

Answer:

A lot of youths and teens are addicted to night clubs and social outings, you are not the first and you will definitely not be the last, but you have to control it.

Most times, the urge to go to night clubs come up because you read pornographic books or you watch them

Night club as they say "Is a place to catch fun and catch girls too", its true, you catch fun in clubs but in the wrong way. >How?<...There is no way you will go to a night club where alcoholic drinks will not be served, and the moment you take alcohol in excess, you lose your stand, before you know it, you would develop the ego to dance with a lady, then you invite her to your home for the night, then you have "it" with her that night, All because you have been blinded by alcohol.

Solutions...

1. Cultivate the habit of saying "No" at the right time.

2. Try your possible best to resist temptations

3. Select your friends, if you find out your friends are the ones leading you into it, it would be advisable for you to change them..IMMEDIATELY!

4. Read 'educative' books not 'pornographic' one

5. Be careful with the kinds of songs you listen to.

Note: The moment you find yourself too attracted to pornographic images, videos etc. then there is problem and the best thing for you to do is to...

1. Try to resist from it!

2. TALK TO GOD!!

3. TELL YOUR PARENTS!!!

>Because you never can tell they might have been in your shoes once.<
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Jo Usmar ponders the meaning of Relationship Black Monday

Monday 7th January was a rubbish day for loads of couples, but a good day for thousands of divorce lawyers. Apparently more people will file for divorce on the second or third Monday in January than on any other day in the year. And the reasons why so many folk crash-land in Splitsville on that particular day actually make sense, in a sad depressing kind of way. (Which is why it’s called ‘Black Monday’ by newspaper editors and pretending-to-be-sympathetic lawyers.)

It’s because January is so ridiculously crappy and December so exhausting. If you have a shaky relationship anyway and then you’re forced to spend an entire six weeks buying presents for each other and for each other’s family, visiting distant relatives that hate each other and so by default hate you, eating cardboard turkey for five days straight while listening to the Band Aid Christmas tune on repeat and watching Harry Potter for the ninth time (don’t get me wrong, I love Harry Potter), it’s no wonder things might become a smidgen strained.

And that’s all before January – the month of no money and a national, seemingly compulsory, detox. Even if you don’t want to go on some half-assed lentil-only soup diet when the entire rest of the country is you end up feeling guilty about scoffing normal food. This guiltiness can make anyone feel rubbish, let alone someone who’s in a crappy relationship.

So it’s easy to see why people might snap and decide enough’s enough now rather than during the spring when everyone’s leaping through fields throwing daisies at each other.

But another reason given for the higher divorce rate is a much more positive one –people deciding they want a fresh start. Yep, I see this as a good thing. (Sorry to the people getting dumped). For lots of folk that have been unhappy for yonks the whole ‘new year, new you’ thing can inspire whopping life changes – including getting rid of your other half. This is far healthier than settling for being unhappy and/or cheating. Which is another thing to note about Black Monday – it’s also the day when most people will cheat or initiate an affair, because of all the reasons listed above.

I don’t for a minute think that someone approaching a divorce lawyer will have taken the decision lightly so if they’ve got that far then something’s clearly seriously wrong. It’s ridiculously hard to split up, especially if you’re married and have kids, so how do you know when to call time on something? Perhaps when the 12 months facing you are too bum-clenchingly grim to contemplate? Or when you’re seriously considering jumping on that hot guy from IT for some light (or heavy) relief? Or when you’ve talked everything to death and there’s still no change? Whatever the reason it’s a massive decision and a really brave one. And whether it was your choice or not just think, in a few weeks it’ll be February which is nearly March, which is nearly spring. Hurray!

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Relationship Questions

Question 1. My boyfriend keeps asking for casual sex, What do i do?
ANSWER

You are in control not him!
You were not born to be a sex machine and neither were you born to be used and dumped. A lot of youths suffer today because of their ignorance and mostly because of 'fear of losing their boyfriends'.
You need to put it in your head that if he loves you, he will wait till you are ready. If you protect yourself by saying "No!", if he truly loves you he will respect you and let you be. But if he doesn't is either he tries to force you, or he tells you it is over between the two of you.
A man that is only interested in sex is set out to destroy a woman life.
Stand on the Solid rock that says I am not interested! You have your own rights to live and not to die

Question 2. I heard semen has some benefits and can even be an anti-depressant. Is that BS concocted by guys who want to get laid?
ANSWER
A study did confirm that, and semen does contain mood-altering hormones. Still, the effect is tiny.

Question 3. How do i approach a guy am in love with?
ANSWER

The myth: If a guy likes you, he’ll come over… Most women think that if a guy hasn’t already approached her, it’s because he isn’t interested. This myth stems partly from movies and books. Even if the guy is awkward and stumbling, he’ll usually approach the women he likes (otherwise there wouldn’t be much of a story).
The cause: Women grossly overestimate male confidence. They assume men fine it easy to approach women. They find it hard to imagine why a man wouldn’t approach a woman he was interested in. This is largely cause by what we call 'The Player Paradox'. 'Players' represent about 5% of all men, but they represent well over half of the men that women and up talking to (by definition, players are the guys doing all the approaching).
The truth: Men find approaching much harder than women could ever realise. It’s one of the hardest things a man ever has to face. His whole identity, image and self-confidence is on the line. We have worked with all sorts of guys: doctors, bankers, diplomats, musicians… they have all found approaching women terrifying.

Question 4. When should i meet his parents?
ANSWER:
A counter-intuitive wrinkle: The more a guy likes you, the less likely he is to approach you. The hardest person to approach in a bar is the one you like the most. This is true for most women too; when we run courses to help women approach men, it’s the hot guy in the bar who’s the hardest to approach.
The consequence: Women assume guys they like the look of aren’t interested. As a consequence, a woman won’t approach a guy she likes because she assumes he would’ve come over already if interested. She’ll think to herself: “What’s the point of going over to talk to him? He can’t be interested in me – otherwise he’d have done something about it…”
MEN STRESS ABOUT TEXTING TOO

What to do about it: Don’t waste time giving him 'signals' which he isn’t even noticing. Most things that women are told to do (smile, make eye contact, flick your hair, take off your jacket…) are far too subtle. If there’s someone you like, approach him yourself. There’s a very good chance he was just struggling to pluck up the courage to approach you.

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Question 5. Whenever I even think about asking someone out I just get nervous and panicky and end up bottling it completely... Do you have any advice for asking someone out without looking like a rabbit in the headlights or a complete lunatic (or, worse, both)?

ANSWER:

The key to asking someone out is to not really ask. In other words, don't feel your sentence needs to end with a question mark. Imagine it like this:

'Would you like to go out this weekend?' (bad)

'I'm going to this cool exhibition (or whatever) this weekend, come!' (good)

One is playful, assertive, confident and doesn't introduce doubt into his mind as to whether he would want to. The other (the first one) puts him in a spot where he really has to think about whether he's interested.

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